In this day and age, there are many factors that go into a healthy and long-lasting relationship. In the early stages of any relationship, there are a lot of conversations that need to happen to keep things running smoothly in the long term. However, sometimes we let the important topics slip through the cracks until much later. If you’re still new to relationships, or you just want to make yours better, we’re here to help out.
1. Communication Is Key
We’ve all heard this phrase used before, and even though it’s become something of a cliche, it remains true. A relationship without consistent and effective communication will never last. If you aren’t telling your partner what you need, and they aren’t telling you what they need, there will be a disconnect between you. This can lead to frustrations and arguments that continue to pop up without ever really getting resolved.
One of the best ways to communicate with your partner is using “I feel” statements so that you avoid laying blame on either one of you.
If you are looking for a crystal that can help you, Malachite is the way to go. It can help open pathways for better communication and love to flow between you and your partner.
2. Talk About Love Languages
There are five main love languages that people resonate with. They are:
- Words of affirmation
- Acts of service
- Receiving gifts
- Quality time
- Physical touch
Most people will have a primary love language, and it’s essential that you know what theirs is. If you are not speaking their love language, then your words or actions are not improving your relationship. On the other hand, if you do know their love language, it becomes a lot easier to show your low in a way that will make sense to your partner.
If your partner’s love language is words of affirmation, compliment them often and tell them how much you love them. If they like quality time, make sure that you set aside time to spend with them without any distractions.
If you’re looking for a crystal to help you with expressing yourself to your partner, try Rhodonite. It’s known for helping you accept your feelings for what they are and expressing how you really feel.
3. Be Willing To Compromise
Relationships are all about give and take. You can’t always get your way during an argument or a disagreement.
Healthy relationships that are built to last can come up with compromises that satisfy both parties, leaving you happy with the outcome without feeling like you sacrificed too much. If you can compromise, especially on bigger topics, it is a sign that your relationship is more valuable to you than your ego.
4. Stay On The Same Wavelength
That feeling you get when the two of you just click is sometimes indescribable. It can feel like you were meant for each other and the stars aligned to bring you two together. But couples sometimes get worried when they become out of sync and start butting heads.
Blue Chalcedony is a crystal that is meant for building stronger bonds. It helps invite happiness into both of your energies and lets the two of you be communicative. Rose Quartz can also promote love and make the two of you feel closer.
5. Come Up With Boundaries
Healthy personal boundaries are vital for your own self-care and relationship. When boundaries are crossed, it can lead to us feeling taken advantage of and turn into resentment. Usually, these boundaries are created based on your past experiences, beliefs, and social learning.
When you set up healthy limits for what you are and are not okay with, it leads to an equal partnership and a sense of empowerment for yourself. It can also help you separate your needs from others and protect your emotional health.
6. Resolving Conflicts
Even people in healthy relationships fight. It’s a predictable part of all relationships, and it is pretty unavoidable. It can cause both parties stress and pent-up anger, but staying quiet when you’re upset and bottling up your emotions will eventually lead to an even larger meltdown.
Believe it or not, good conflict resolution is a skill that you may need to learn.
One of the best things you can do in an argument is actually to listen. Don’t just wait for a moment to snap back at your partner and make your point. A lot of conflicts stem from partners not feeling heard or understood. Listening can help you understand where the disconnect in communication is. After you both understand each other’s stances, you should start looking for a solution. Remember, it’s okay to agree to disagree on some things.
If you are looking to let go of the past and move forward, Serpentine is helpful in this area. It can help you release your emotional trauma of the past and transform into your best self.
7. Forgiving And Not Keeping Score
There has been significant research conducted on couple’s conflict resolution and the odds of that couple getting divorced. If the couple criticizes their partner’s character, the relationship often heads south, fast. Aim to keep arguments on the topic at hand, rather than using them as an opportunity to point out your partner’s flaws.
Once a conflict has been resolved, you can’t hang onto it for future arguments. Love does not keep track of the other person’s wrongs like a game. Ametrine is a stone of peace and can encourage you to resolve conflict peacefully. This crystal helps bring people together and makes us more aware of our prejudices.
8. Don’t Compare Your Relationships To Others
In a world of social media and technology, it’s easy to pick up your phone and start envying other people’s relationships online. But it’s important to bear in mind that much of what’s posted online is fabricated. People don’t show the hard and frustrating moments of their relationships. Most of us only post happy moments that make our life look like a fairytale.
The first step to stop comparing yourself is finding comfort within your relationship. You don’t need anyone else’s validation besides between the two of you. Focus on what makes your relationship special and unique. Do more things to please one another and spend time together without documenting it for the world to see.
Practice being authentic with those around you. Have open and honest conversations with your friends about their relationships and struggles. This can help you feel more normal and rid yourself of any guilt you feel for not having a perfect relationship.
9. Develop Your Own Interests
Relying on your partner to fulfill your happiness will only lead to disappointment. Remember that you are both still individuals and are allowed to have your own hobbies. Set aside some time each day for yourself to meditate and reflect.
Spending time with crystals that will help you love yourself more can help, as well. Try Rhodochrosite, Amethyst, and Citrine for their uplifting energies.
Relationships are beautiful and can bring incredible happiness to the people in them. Making them last a lifetime is tricky, but it’s worth all the time and effort.
Humans have a psychological need for connection with others, and achieving that is one of the greatest feelings in the world. Compromise, conflict resolution, and crystals are the keys to any long-lasting relationship.